Surviving Domestic Abuse

[Aymelek]

Surviving Domestic Abuse
I do not claim to be an expert, nor am I a psychologist or social worker - I am a survivor, and I know what it was to be a victim. I know the pain, the hurt, the humiliation and the worthlessness. I know the excuses, the silence and the front for others. I know the loneliness, when it seems no one understands or can/won't help. I know the fear - of living with the torment and the violence, and the fear of what would happen if you leave. I know the emptiness, the lack of self-confidence and self-esteem. I know how it makes you feel like you're nothing, how you no longer give a shit and give up. I know how you think that it will get better, and how it feels when it doesn't. I know what it feels like, how difficult it is - especially the decision to leave for good. I KNOW, because I have lived it and so has many others.


There is no excuse for DomesticViolence!




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First comes the initial shock from realizing that you must escape from the domestic violence you've been living with. Then comes the disbelief, pain and anger that introduce themselves to you in waves that sometimes totally envelope you. If you are escaping a domestic violence situation you may suddenly find yourself and your children out in the cold with no place to go, no income, and no place to turn to for help.
This is not what you signed up for when you took your marriage vows. After all, marriage is supposed to be forever, especially when children are involved. Life has dealt you a tough blow.


You feel lost, scared and alone.
You may feel worthless, discarded and abandoned.
You may feel totally overwhelmed by your situation.

You can help yourself.


Be a Survivor!

There is no excuse for DomesticViolence!


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He said several times that he would always be part of my life, that because of all the things he did to me no one else would ever want me. After years of his abuse and finally getting away from him, I can now look in the mirror and inside myself, I don't see anything holding me back there. I'm beginning to come out and give of myself again. And so can you!


Domestic Violence ~ An ugly name for an even uglier crime committed by one or more family members against another.
Sexual assault (whether committed by a stranger, acquaintance or family member) is a crime motivated by violence, anger, and power; it is NOT an act of sexual desire.

Regardless of the circumstances, sexual assault is NEVER the survivors fault.

We are all God's children.... Somehow it is up to us.... We have to make it change.... We have to make it better.... If we reach out with just one hand.... If we speak out as just one voice.... We have to find a way to make it better.... If we take this world, and make it a place of love.... Maybe we could change it....

There are 6 types of abuse: physical, mental, emotional, verbal, spiritual and sexual.

Be Silent No Longer

THE VICTIM'S VOICES MUST BE HEARD!
Rape ~ An Act of Violence

Rape is not an act of passion ~ it is an act of violence!
It is an act of taking away a person's choices, and performing sexual acts against a person's will. It is an issue of control ~ and leaves the victim (if they survive) violated in body, mind and soul.
People that live in abusive situations are stuck by their feelings of love, guilt, and even loyality. They have the fear of not having anywhere else to go, or having anyone to turn to. They have many, many confusing feelings that take control of their lives, and usually stay behind their "SAFE" wall, where denial protects them.


There is no excuse for DomesticViolence!
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I am Aymelek, Trovie Woman, HJW and Mistress of Slave Pens

My evergreen eyes watch over My home, missing nothing that goes on. Proud of the home I have made, I hold all to the high standards Kassau and my LM demands.

[lani]

thank You my Mistress these are words of encourgment not to only me but anyone that has survived this violent crime.

Your slave noelani

[WinterMoon]

i am now a retired city official but remember on of the positions i had in the many years that i worked for this government agency. i was the person in charge of all the relocations of women and men and children under the domestic abuse situation. only me knew where they lived after the relocation. i remember the death threats from x husbands and wives that kept coming to me because i refused to divulge the information.

Why did i do this? because i was a victim of domestic violence. i, too, was beaten to a pulp or threatened with knives and was abused mentally too. i once fought back and it took close to a month for my face to come back to normal. i was raped by my own husband and he sodomized me forcelly. i am a submissive but i know the difference between D/s and the instructions and teaching from a Master and i also know what abuse is. This was abuse because he was not from the lifestyle.

One day i could not take it anymore and i came to him without empty hands and since then he stayed away from me. You see, these abusers are really cowards. They abuse those unable to defend themselves. So i fought back and called the police.

i am now divorced and alone. i do not get beaten and i do not have to fight him anymore.

If anyone here needs to talk to someone about domestic violence, please let me know. I have the information on how to get help.

sincerely
cistina